“It is often tragic to see how blatantly a man bungles his own life and the lives of others yet remains totally incapable of seeing how much the whole tragedy originates in himself, and how he continually feeds it and keeps it going. Not consciously, of course – for consciously he is engaged in bewailing and cursing a faithless world that recedes further and further in the distance. Rather, it is an unconscious factor which spins the illusions that veil his world. And what is being spun is a cocoon, which in the end will completely envelop him” Carl Jung, “The Shadow” CW 9 ii, par 19.
This quote came up in my reading this morning. It articulates the victim mentality that is so prevalent in society. Instead of being active and taking responsibility for one’s life – past, present, and future – the victim sees their situation as something that happened to them. Since the victims do not see that they are the cause of their situation, they also do not see that they are the solution. In their mind, it is the world that causes their misery so the world must change for the misery to end. Change needs to come from within. To take control of one’s life means to also take responsibility. When a person lives passively they give up control. They let the circumstance determine their attitude. Attitude determines outcome, not circumstance. Active living means controlling your attitude regardless of circumstances in order to create the desired outcome.
This quote also points to what is frustrating in the study (both formal and informal) of psychology – how easy it becomes to recognize the illusions that others create that hinder their personal growth but how difficult it can be to see through our own veils.